What is counselling

What is counselling/speaking therapy

 

Counselling is a place where you can find support in a safe and non-judgemental atmosphere. It is a great way to come closer to yourself, to take a step back from daily life in order to have a better overview, with a set time in your diary and a professional space to work on what is important to you.

 

A counsellor listens to what you bring to the sessions. This is often the first step of a therapeutic process. To be able to share what you are going through to someone who really listens is often experienced as a big relief. A counsellor does not "counsel" you what you should do, but asks supportive questions to help you to explore the situation, express how you feel and encourage you to find your own answers. It is not a mechanism or method that is practised, but a wish to accompany someone on their path out of true human to human interest. The counsellor is trained to do this over many years and has the experience of hundreds to thousands of hours of unique life situations, which help to understand your specific individual path. He/She is trained to support people who are facing difficult life circumstances and can work together with your doctor or therapist if you wish.

 

Through counselling a client will often experience: a relief of stress, that painful feelings can feel more bearable, an improved feeling of health and wellbeing, more energy, more self confidence and feeling more in control of what happens in life. 

To be seen, understood and to find a way forward is an experience that is truly human and precious, it is often described as the therapeutic relationship, or the deepest therapeutic "healing ingredient". Thus it can be that the deepest pain is caused by one human being and that what helps to mend these human wounds, is another human being and a deep experience of good intentions and care. Following the Epigenetic researches, even our genes are influenced by the experiences we have on a social level, creating illness or health and thus a good experience in counselling can be a real health tonic.  

When the sun is shining

and all is going well,

I can travel great distances

and reach many happy destinations,

I feel appreciated and respected

among many other equal human beings.

But in times of shadow

it is another story.

Life can feel cold

as if I am not welcome

or not good enough

and that gift I have inside,

the gift of being me,

slowly gets forgotten.

Sometimes I just need someone,

who helps me to remember

how precious I am,

how rich and valuable are my resources,

my love and my humour

and then I can find myself again!